Bedtime Struggles with my 18-Month old, and How I got Him Back on Track

After sleep-training your child, it’s common to experience setbacks at some point so it’s important to understand what’s happening and what kind of adjustments you can make to get your child back on track.


In this blog post I’m going to talk about my recent experience with our 18-month-old toddler. We’ll talk about some of the bedtime struggles we started having over the holidays and what we did to correct them. I’m going to give you step-by-step direction on what I did to improve his schedule and how we encouraged him to start sleeping through the night again.


In my opinion, 18-months is the most challenging time to correct bedtime struggles. The reason for this is because they are big babies now, so they don’t mind protesting louder and longer. If this is the first time that they’ve been sleep trained, it can be challenging because they get used to their current habits and it takes more time to encourage new healthy routines. The crying can be hard, especially for the parents, so I do my best to avoid the tears as much as possible although you’ll see I just wasn’t able to avoid them all together here.


My son was only a few months old when we chose to sleep train him. He responded well to sleep training and slept through the night most of the time, sometimes waking once for a feeding, but that was it. We were consistent and he continued to sleep well even while we made daytime nap transitions and worked through his separation anxiety.


Our recent sleep struggles began over the holidays. We had a lot going on and we didn’t prioritize our routines as much as we usually do. We made choices that didn’t align with our current schedule, and we started bringing him into our bed for early morning snuggles. What came next was a series of sleep troubles. My baby suddenly started waking up at night wanting to be snuggled. He was waking multiple times a night and crying if he noticed us leaving the room before he fell asleep.


Everyone falls off routine sometimes so it’s important to know what to do to get them back on routine and start encouraging independent sleep again. The first thing I always do is make sure I have my routines in line. Babies thrive when their routines are consistent and predictable, so that must be a priority. At 18 months of age my son needs one nap a day, not exceeding 3 hours, and we do a 7pm bedtime for him. When it’s time for bed we do our bedtime routines, hold him for a quick snuggle and then tuck him into his bed, we say goodnight and then leave the room while he's calm but still awake.


There are many different methods that can be used when encouraging independent sleep. It’s important that you choose a method and have a plan for what to do when your baby starts crying. I always choose which method will work best based on the baby’s temperament and how the parent feels about crying. For my son, check-ins have been very effective in the past, so it was an easy choice for us.


After we say goodnight and leave the room, he usually rubs his hair and falls asleep on his own. Since we’ve been off our routines, he started standing up in his crib and crying as soon as I leave the room. I chose to start check-ins in 4 or 5 minute intervals. When my timer goes off, I go into his room, give him a quick snuggle then lay him back down and rub his hair until he’s relaxed. When he is calm but still awake, I leave the room again. I continue to do check ins at 4 or 5 minute intervals until he falls asleep. The first two nights are always the hardest and take the most work, but progress is often seen by night 3. It wasn't long before he was sleeping through the night again!


When it comes to check-ins, each situation is different so the time intervals should be left up to the parents and then check-ins need to be done every single time the timer goes off. Consistency is the key here. The goal is to teach your baby that you are always coming back and that they are safe in their space. After a few days of consistency, your baby will learn that you’ll be back, and they’ll learn to self soothe. Eventually the goal is to lay them down relaxed, be able to leave the room and they fall asleep on their own.


Setbacks are common, they can happen due to teething, sleep regressions, or simply because we’ve fallen off routine. The best thing you can do it dial in your routines and stay consistent. Baby’s love consistency and predictability and a well rested baby is beneficial for the entire family. I have a separate blog post that has a lot of helpful information for creating the best environment to encourage sleep. Combining a comfortable sleep environment, consistent routine, and responding appropriately to crying, is the perfect combination to get your baby sleeping better in no time. 

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Wake Windows, and How to Make Them Actually Work for Your Baby

November 27, 2025
Wake Windows: Why They Feel Confusing — and How to Make Them Actually Work for Your Baby If you’ve ever Googled “wake windows” and ended up feeling even more confused… you are not alone. Most parents I talk to tell me the same thing: “Every chart says something different.” “My baby never follows the ‘rules’.” “I’m trying to watch the clock but it feels impossible.” Here’s the good news: wake windows don’t have to be perfect to make a difference. And when you understand the why behind them, everything gets much simpler. Let’s break it down in the most parent-friendly way possible. What Are Wake Windows? A “wake window” is simply the amount of time your baby can comfortably stay awake between sleep periods before becoming overtired. Think of it like a sweet spot : Too short → baby may not be tired enough for a solid nap Too long → baby becomes wired, fussy, and harder to settle Wake windows help us figure out that sweet spot without guessing all day long. Why Wake Windows Matter (But Don’t Need to Be Perfect) Wake windows support: Easier nap times Longer, more restorative naps A smoother bedtime Happier awake times But here’s the most important part: 👉 Wake windows are a guide, not a rigid rule. Every baby has a slightly different rhythm, and your job is simply to find your baby’s sweet spot. What Are the Average Wake Windows for Babies 3–12 Months? These are realistic ranges, not strict numbers: 3–4 Months 75–120 minutes Most babies land around 90 minutes, give or take 5–6 Months 2–2.5 hours 7–9 Months 2.5–3.5 hours 10–12 Months 3–4 hours If your baby is on the younger side of the age range, stick toward the lower end. As they grow, they naturally move up. Signs Your Baby Is Ready for Sleep Instead of staring at the clock, use these signs as your “true guide”: Early sleepy cues: Red eyebrows Zoned out, quiet Slight fussiness Rubbing eyes or face Late cues: Arching Crying hard Lots of resistance Seeming “wired”  If you’re regularly hitting late cues, the wake window is likely a bit too long. Why Wake Windows Can Feel Confusing Here are the top reasons parents tell me wake windows aren’t working: 1. Baby is giving mixed signals Some babies show almost no cues (especially 3–5 month olds). Others show cues all day, even when not tired. 2. You’re trying to follow a chart too literally Your baby might be a “shorter” or “longer” window baby. That’s normal! 3. Your baby’s wake windows change quickly 3–4 months 5 months 7–8 months 10–11 months wake windows shift fast. 4. Overtired and undertired look the same Fussiness, short naps, bedtime struggles can happen from either. That’s why the goal isn’t perfection. It’s pattern-finding . The Simple Way to Find Your Baby’s Perfect Wake Window Try this for the next 3 days: Step 1: Pick a starting wake window within the normal range for your baby’s age. Step 2: Watch for tired cues near the end of the window. Step 3: Note the nap outcome: Long nap = timing is good Short nap = may be too short or long Very hard to settle = too long Baby rolls around happy for ages = too short Step 4: Adjust by 10–15 minutes at a time. Small tweaks make the biggest difference. Example for a 4-Month-Old Starting window: 90 minutes If baby fights the nap → try 80 minutes next nap/day. If baby takes a solid nap → keep the same window. If baby wakes at 20–30 minutes → try extending to 100 minutes . Your baby’s perfect window is the one that gives you: Easier settling Restful naps A smoother bedtime A Kind Reminder If wake windows feel overwhelming, it’s not because you’re doing anything wrong. It’s because babies are complex, ever-changing little humans — and you’re learning alongside them. The goal is not to track every minute. The goal is to support your baby’s natural rhythms and make your days a little easier. You’re doing an amazing job. 🤍 Need help figuring out your baby’s timing? I support families every day in creating simple, workable schedules that match their baby’s developmental needs. If you want a personalized plan that actually makes sense for your baby, you can always reach out. I’m here to help.

Helping Your Child Sleep Well During Unexpected Time Off From School

October 16, 2025
1. Stick to Consistent Wake-Up and Bedtimes It’s tempting to let schedules slide when there’s no school bell to answer to, but a consistent sleep-wake rhythm helps regulate your child’s internal clock (their circadian rhythm). Try to keep wake-up and bedtime within about 30–60 minutes of their usual school-day times. This helps avoid sleep debt, cranky moods, and trouble readjusting when school resumes. ✅ Tip: Open the blinds in the morning to get natural light, this helps reset your child’s body clock and promotes better nighttime sleep. 2. Create a Daily Routine (Even a Loose One) Kids feel secure when they know what to expect. Even a simple routine can bring a sense of order to otherwise unstructured days. Include blocks of: Active time (walks, indoor movement) Quiet play Meals/snacks at consistent times Screen-free wind-down time before bed When daily activities happen at predictable times, sleep tends to follow more smoothly. 3. Be Mindful of Screen Time With more downtime at home, screens can creep into all hours of the day. Blue light from tablets and TVs can delay melatonin production and make it harder for kids to fall asleep. ✅ Try This: Turn off screens at least 60–90 minutes before bedtime , and replace them with calming activities like puzzles, coloring, or reading together. 4. Watch for Sleep Cues Without the natural cues of a busy school day, some kids may not show typical signs of sleepiness, or may push through them. Keep an eye on signs like yawning, rubbing eyes, zoning out, or getting unusually hyper (yes, that can be a sign of overtiredness!). ✅ If your child seems to be fighting sleep, try moving bedtime earlier by 15–20 minutes and see if that helps. 5. If You're Working From Home, Build Quiet Time Into the Day Trying to work while parenting is no easy task. If naps are a thing of the past in your house, try introducing a “quiet time” each afternoon. This can include audiobooks, soft music, or solo play in a cozy space. Even older children benefit from some downtime in the middle of the day, and it can prevent late-day energy crashes that disrupt bedtime. 6. Use Bedtime as a Calm, Comforting Anchor In times of uncertainty or change, bedtime can become a safe space. Stick to your usual bedtime routine as much as possible — bath, books, cuddles — to help your child feel grounded and secure. If your child is feeling anxious or unsettled, spend a few extra minutes talking about their day or practicing a simple calming exercise like deep belly breaths. 7. And Remember — Flexibility Is Okay This isn’t about perfection. If bedtime shifts by a little, or naps don’t happen like they used to — it’s okay. Focus on keeping some consistency, offering comfort, and supporting rest. The goal is to protect your child’s sleep without adding stress to an already disrupted routine. Final Thought Unexpected school closures can feel chaotic, but they can also be an opportunity to slow down and reconnect as a family. By gently protecting your child’s sleep habits during this time, you’re helping them feel safe, rested, and ready for the return to normal routines, whenever that comes. You've got this — and I'm here if you need support.

The Best Bedtime Routines for Working Parents

By site-jVv_Pg • September 20, 2025
The Best Bedtime Routines for Working Parents As a working parent, your day doesn’t slow down when the workday ends—it shifts gears. Between dinner prep, school paperwork, and bedtime battles, the evening can feel more like a sprint than a wind-down. But here’s the good news: a consistent, calm bedtime routine doesn’t have to take an hour (or your last shred of energy). In fact, with a few intentional steps, you can create a sleep-friendly routine that works for your child—and your schedule. Here’s how to build the best bedtime routine for working parents who want peaceful evenings and well-rested kids. 1. Start with Connection, Not Control After a long day apart, your child craves connection. Before diving into “get ready for bed” mode, spend just 5–10 minutes doing something calm and connecting: Cuddle on the couch Read a short book together Do a quiet puzzle or coloring page This small moment of presence helps fill your child’s emotional tank, making them more cooperative during the routine that follows. 2. Keep It Short and Predictable (20–30 Minutes Total) A good bedtime routine doesn't need to be long or elaborate. The key is consistency. Choose a 3–5 step routine you can repeat every night. For example: Sample 20-Minute Bedtime Routine: Bath or quick wash-up Pajamas and teeth brushing Book (or two!) Hugs/kisses and a short chat Lights out with a soothing sound machine or nightlight Tip: Start the routine at the same time each night. Children thrive on predictability—it helps their body and brain prepare for sleep. 3. Use Visuals and Routines Charts If your child resists bedtime transitions, a visual bedtime chart can be a game changer. Simple pictures of each step (e.g., pajamas, book, bed) can make the routine feel more like a game than a struggle—and it keeps you from having to nag or repeat yourself. Bonus: Let your child check off each step. It gives them a sense of control in a predictable framework. 4. Set Boundaries with Love Working parents often feel guilty about limited time with their kids, and bedtime can become a stalling ground for "just one more..." requests. The best way to handle this? Set clear boundaries with warmth. Try: “We have time for two books tonight. I can’t wait to read them with you!” Or: “After our story, I’ll tuck you in and check on you in 10 minutes.” Being firm and kind shows your child that bedtime is safe, predictable, and non-negotiable. 5. Lean on Tools, Not Screens Avoid screen time at least an hour before bed—it interferes with melatonin production. Instead, use calming tools: A white noise machine or calming playlist A diffuser with lavender essential oil (safe for kids over 6 months) A special bedtime-only stuffed animal or blanket These sensory cues help signal to your child’s brain: “It’s time for sleep.” 6. Be Kind to Yourself, Too Even with the perfect routine, some nights will go off the rails. That’s okay. Working parents wear a lot of hats—employee, parent, chef, chauffeur, bedtime storyteller. You don’t have to be perfect to raise a well-rested child. If bedtime is consistently a struggle or if your child has ongoing sleep difficulties, you're not alone—and you're not failing. This is where professional sleep support can make all the difference. Final Thoughts A solid bedtime routine is one of the most powerful tools a working parent can use to support their child’s sleep. And when your child sleeps better, you sleep better—which makes everything else more manageable. If you’re ready to bring calm to your evenings and want support tailoring a routine for your unique family, I’m here to help.